Kicking your friends’ butts in Halo. Passing a test you forgot to study for. Winning a big game as the home team. There are a lot of things to enjoy as a teenage guy, touching a vagina will always be close to the top of the list.

Every girl is going to be different. And eventually you will learn things that work best for you. But with this basic approach you will know enough to put you ahead of the competition when it comes to your digits going down under.

Ten Steps to Moving About Downtown:

1. Before you get serious move your hand to her inner thigh. Lightly rub her leg here and make sure you are getting good signs to keep going (a nod, heavier panting, a moan, more intense kissing, etc).
2. If she’s wearing jeans reach for her button and ask if this is okay. If she’s in a skirt, move your hand up until you graze past her vulva* – again, ask if this is okay. Don’t just grope like an animal, make sure she’s getting what she wants.
3. Slide your hand so you’re cupping her vulva with your hand – the way you’d cover your own family jewels if someone was going to “crotch shot” you.
4. Gently dip your finger in between her lips up to the first knuckle. Go slow, go shallow, and don’t move it too much just yet. Ask, “does that feel good?” If she’s not feeling it move your hand away and do something else. If you get the green light, keep it up.
5. Start swirling in small circles. Tiny. Without moving your finger in any further, slowly swirl your finger around like you were stirring just the top of a drink.
6. Slide in a bit deeper and curl your finger upward. Put a little bit of pressure on the spongy feeling surface you’re now touching. Again rubbing your finger in tiny circles will help.
7. Pull your finger out slowly and move it up to the top of her lips. Now that your finger is properly lubricated move it up to her clitoris to really drive her wild.
8. Circle around similar to the way you did with her nipples. Do this very very very lightly. Don’t change motions too much. You want to continue with a pattern that she responds positively too. Only add more pressure if she asks for it.
9. Dip back in if you need to re-lubricate. If friction builds and your finger stops gliding across her like a slip ‘n’ slide, dip your finger back in between her lips to rewet it.
10. Ask her what feels best and respond to her moans and movements. “Tell me what you like,” and “Does that feel okay” are easy ways to seem like you know what you’re doing but have her show you what works best.

Never just ram your finger in and out. Never put too much pressure directly on her clit unless she asks for it. Never keep reaching for her crotch if she’s already pushed your hand away. And don’t forget to keep up the kissing. These are all amateur mistakes to leave out of your bag of tricks.

*Did you know? When you’re looking at a girl between the legs it’s not her vagina but her vulva you’re seeing (if you ever are this lucky). While most people say “vagina” that word actually refers to the canal that leads up to her cervix and uterus. The vulva is the outside that consists of her lips, clit, and mons pubis (some technical terms to help you out).