From: Pat

So I just went on a first date with an amazing girl and everything went well. the conversation was alive, we got along great, and I was even lucky enough to get a goodbye kiss when I walked her back to her door. But I have a question, what do I do now? When do I ask her out again? I want to continue this but am not exactly sure how to go through with it. any suggestions?

H.U.S.H. Response:

First of all, Way To Go! That sounds great. It sounds like she had fun, she obviously likes you, and she was into the date and even gave a goodbye kiss!!! You are now officially a HUSH success story having conquered the advice we’ve given about asking her out and showing her a good time!

Now to your question. A good rule of thumb is to get in touch the next day (if you feel really positive about the date maybe that night) and just send a very short text about what a great time you had.

“Hey, Kelly. Wanted to say I had a blast last night. Hope your day is going well.”

You’re just reaching out to stay on her radar and remind her of all the great feelings she had the day before when she was around you. This will put you on good footing to ask her out again later.

You’re getting tons of green lights. Odds are you don’t have to worry much about getting rejected. Go ahead and ask her out again soon. Let’s put this in a time line.

Date (Day 1) – - Text (Day 2) – - (Day 3) – - (Day 4) – - Ask her out again (Day 5)

This isn’t written in stone. You don’t have to stick exactly to this timeline; it’s just a safe starting spot. If things were a little iffier you might wait longer to ask her out. But like I said, you are in the clear. Sometimes you can mention at the end of the date, “that was really fun, we should hang out again soon.” Then you can follow up later and really ask her out any time after that if she responds positively. I’d say never ask her out the next day just to be safe that you don’t seem desperate.

Next rule. If she is always responding to your texts feel free to text her again throughout the week before you ask her out again. It seems like she’s into you so most likely she’s happy to receive spontaneous chats from you.

A few days later ask her out again however you asked her out last time (in person, call, text, whatever). Tell her you really enjoyed last time you guys hung out and mention whatever idea you have for a date this time around. You had success the last time you asked; so don’t fix what ain’t broke.

Hope this helps and thanks for reading,
HUSH