You like her. More than like her you really like her. Not even that does it justice. You cannot stop thinking about this girl and every time you see her you just feel different.

It’s hard not to obsess sometimes and no one else will fault you for it – except your friends who have probably heard enough about her already. Oh and probably everyone if you have gotten creepy about it and are on her facebook constantly or stalking her about her social life. But the obsession is not helping you.

Building her up in your head like this is turning you into a bumbling fool. If you’re one step away from erecting a shrine to her in your room it’s not likely you’ll be able to keep your cool and stay yourself when she is around. You are someone she might want to hang out with. The star struck / obsessed-with-her dude you have become is not.

Beyond the challenge you’ve set for yourself you are putting blinders on to other options. Yes, most likely your crush is totally awesome and deserving of your adoration. But maybe there are other girls around that are as well. When you let yourself become fixated on one, all other eligible females become invisible and you might let yourself miss out on someone else who is equally amazing.

The biggest problem might be the fall you’re setting yourself up for. If you put all your hopes in one dream(girl) and things don’t work out, no matter how tough you are you could be devastated. High school is hard enough without giving yourself more reasons to be miserable. If you cut down on the obsession you cut down on your chances of being that hopeless dude depressed about a girl he never even got to date.

So what can you do to cut back on the obsession?

Come back and check out Part II.