From: Mario

How should you go about approaching and befriending a girl who is more interested in sports than you?

H.U.S.H. Response:

If sports knowledge is not your strong suit then obviously you can’t have your first conversation with her use this as a starting point. But she must have other interests – and this is what you can work with. They may not be so obvious at first but if you know enough about her to know she’s more interested in sports than you are I’m guessing you have a few other clues as to what she does in her spare time, what else drives her, or what she does and doesn’t like at school.

Don’t try and change. You’re never going to learn enough about sports before the end of high school to really hold up your end of a riveting conversation with her. You’d just be reinforcing a bad (and fruitless) habit by trying to change who you are to get with her.

Remember things she brings up. Instead of going out and learning on your own pay attention to what she talks about. Ask about them later to get her input. (Example: she brings up a favorite sports team, player, or opening to a season one week – a week or so later ask for an update on that specific reference). She’ll think it’s cute that you’re catching on. There’s always a chance she’ll be more into a guy who can keep up with this sort of conversation but you’ll get bonus points when she notices you listen to her.

Ask to learn more. People like teaching and talking about stuff they’re good at. You’ve already got a first date out of the dynamic between you two – watching some sort of game/match on the TV at her place or going to an event with her. Most likely you’ve got something she doesn’t know much about so there is a trade off to entertain you two for quite some time.

If you show her you find her interesting and you show her somehow that you can be intriguing too you’re on your way to success.

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