The Lonely Island Boys did an amazing thing when they took an incredibly awkward encounter and helped us find the humor in it (and did so with such a catchy beat). Premature ejaculation, when a man ejaculates during sexual stimulation than he or a partner would like, happens to a lot of guys. While that doesn’t mean it’s something you should look forward to, it can make it a little less mortifying if it happens to you in the future.

Let’s just assume that if you are hooking up it might happen to you sometime in the future and come up with a game plan.

Admit it.

This can only get more awkward if you try to act like you didn’t just splooge way ahead of schedule. The male orgasm can be a tricky thing to try to hide (hey, it’s even hard to hide our excitement, pun intended). Just be honest about what has happened (come clean, if you will? Okay, last pun). Tell her she turns you on and that it’s more difficult to control yourself around her than you’d thought. It’s okay to admit being a little embarrassed. And while she might not be thrilled, there’s the chance she’ll be flattered.

If it’s happening fast, slow down.

Some guys get the idea to just keep going when they’re in the moment, sexually speaking, with a girl. It is totally okay to ask to slow down, change rhythms, or switch to doing something else completely, if you feel yourself about to finish faster than you’d like.

Keep Calm and Carry On

Sometimes premature ejaculation is linked to anxiety. Telling a partner that this might happen is a great way to take some of the pressure off. And most likely she’ll help put you at ease about the situation. Relax, listen to your body, and remember the last tip we talked about.

Switch Up Your Solo Routine

Sometimes habits are learned during masturbation that negatively affect our encounters with a partner. Sometimes we approach self-play but just rushing to the finish line. Instead you can use your alone time to learn to control your level of arousal. Try bringing yourself right to the edge and then holding off, finding different ways to stimulate yourself, or practice extending your session.

See a Professional

And if you’re really jizzing in your pants when a pretty girl just looks at you (or after eating a grape) please see a medical professional. All jokes aside if this is a problem in your life that doesn’t seem to go away with it’s something you should talk to your doctor about. They’ve heard everything at this point so don’t feel like you can shock them. Even if they don’t have the answer they can refer you to someone who will.