Getting dumped sucks. In some cases, even being the one who breaks up with the other person sucks. Relationships can be enjoyable and when they end it sucks. But in most cases, a relationship that ended was meant to be finished. If it’s over, it’s over. And you have got to make sure you are okay with that.
One thing that lures us back to a broken relationship is remembering Read on »
We want girls to think we’re hot. We want them to say “yes” to our date invitations. We want them to tell their friends about how cool we are. The guys with all the sweet gear and good looks make it seem so easy. But you don’t need all of that for success with the ladies. We’ll help you do without all the fancy extras in our ongoing series, You Don’t Need.
Nice Car? Nope. Not what you need to get girls.
Yes. It is fun to cruise around in a shiny ride. But the wheels don’t do the wooing. It’s the who drives that does. Girls won’t make out with an exhaust pipe. They won’t talk to a carburetor on Skype. Just because you don’t have a cool car doesn’t mean you can’t rev her engine. Read on »
We’re approaching that time all of us dread: the end of summer. While shortened video game sessions at the pressures of homework and exchanges of precious sleep for early morning rides to class lay ahead, so too do new opportunities for high school romance. You’ve made resolutions in years past at the start of the school year and whether they went well or fell short, HUSH is here to help you find success this time around. Follow these steps and increase your odds this semester for finding love or just getting lucky. Read on »
The latest installment of “Things Jerks Do” is in. Find here another mini-collection of male behavior that will make any dude less of a man and a lot more of a jerk. Understand them then avoid them in your relationships.
If you’re in a relationship with a girl, sure not every moment is going to magical. This doesn’t mean, however, that you can count half-assed hang outs as romance. She needs to be shown a good time, be given some undivided attention, and taken to something new every so often. Get some clarity on what doesn’t count as a date and make sure there is a balance between the mundane and the passionate.
Friends With Benefits can work if both partners are getting what they need. But if it’s clear that one person is more emotionally invested in this relationship than the other, things should either progress or be cut off. Insisting on getting the physical fulfillment you want but holding back on the commitment end is just taking advantage of her feelings in a sleazy way.
She knows you’re attracted to her (mind, body, and spirit) but it helps to be reminded. Frequently. You don’t need to shower her in praise but never telling her something you appreciate about her or what makes her special is an easy way to take her for granted. Let her know she means something to you or you’re letting her down. Read on »
At this point midsummer the days couldn’t feel longer, the girls’ shorts couldn’t seem shorter, and you’re as far away from a classroom as you’ll be at any point in the year. If you’re looking to heart up your love life in addition to the temperature outdoors take a tour through last summer’s dating ideas and check back soon for new tips to stay cool with the ladies.
Summer Dates to Take:
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From Gabe:
Basically this girl chased me for about a year but i didnt have any feelings for her more than a friend , we went out on 2 dates and she liked me more but i still wasnt sure , and at partys she would always come over to me and id try to shake her off. Well eventually we got into a relationship that lasted 2 months and she suddenly went all blunt and wouldnt reply to texts etc and all this made me want her and when she broke up she said she just looks at me as a bestfriend but i said “i dont think we can be friends” and i never heard from her again then i text her 3 weeks later and she was blunt then posted on twitter “dont try talk to me now after all this time , its over done and finished” im so confused how can she go from being clingy to not wanting me?
H.U.S.H. Response:
If there is anything I learned in high school, perhaps even one of the major motivations for making a guide for guys like Hooking Up and Staying Hooked, it is how unpredictable teenage girls can be. Sure guys can be complicated and irrational and send mixed signals too, but sometimes guys just feel completely lost when it comes to the unpredictability of girls. This situation is one that just about every guy has been through and that probably no one has figured out on the first try.
Before this situation makes you wind up like Ryan Gosling in the above clip from The Notebook, take a minute to think about some of the following things. Read on »
Welcome to the next edition of “Things Jerks Do” on Hooking Up & Staying Hooked, your catch-all collection of actions that make any guy officially a D-Bag. Read them all and remove them from your repertoire.
Birthdays, anniversaries, accomplishments, even holidays like Christmas or Valentine’s Day – these things matter to a lot of girls. Jerks won’t remember, forgo finding her a gift, and will even fail to recognize that these sort of things my matter for the girl they’re dating. You should look for ways to compliment your girlfriend regularly and make her feel special frequently – but on these occasions you’ve really got to recognize that this might mean something to her.
This will make you seem sleezy. This could create a rift between her and her friends. This could hurt her self-esteem or make her feel like she isn’t enough for you. This might make her feel jealous or angry. This could make her doubt how interested you really are in this relationship. Nothing good will come from it.
It’s a great idea to talk about what you’re interested in when it comes to getting physical and you should be honest. But you can’t be a bully about it. A jerk is someone who doesn’t take “no” for an answer or keeps pushing the issue and pesters or intimidates a girl into going farther sexually than she wanted to. You should want the women you have sex to want it to – that’s a pretty basic aspect of being a decent human being. Ease up. Be patient. She’ll want you eventually or someone else will. Trying to score isn’t worth being an a-hole about it.
Figuring out whether or not a girl is attracted to you sometimes feels like the most frustrating puzzle encountered by man. You may have already mastered flirting with her, asking her out, and picking her up to go out, but sometimes the entire time we’re with a girl we’re lost as to whether or not she wants us back.
While it isn’t the ultimate yes or no test, a quick way to help you measure how much she might like you back is to engage in just a little bit of casual contact. We’ve given you hints about initiating this on your own before. But letting it happen and paying attention to how long it happens might also help you figure out if she’s interested. Read on »
From Cody:
Yesterday I hung out with this girl who is considered one of the most “popular” girls in school and we talked here and there and we had a great time. During school we had a couple classes together and we talked a little bit but didn’t really go anywhere from there so yesterday was the first time we actually hung out because she happened to know one of my friends I was hanging out with that night. Anyways, I talk to her the next day and I asked her on a classic dinner and a movie date. She accepted which I was kind of shocked about that, but I guess this is where my question comes in, how can I impress her? I want to stand out from I guess the other guys she see’s. I know the obvious answer is to be myself but I know I can do more if that makes sense. do you have any suggestions I can do to make our first date a very memorable one?
HUSH Answer: Read on »
Some of you may have been using the advice here on Hooking Up & Staying Hooked to find a girlfriend. We’ve written about everything from meeting girls, first dates, and showering her how special she is. With these words of wisdom and maybe a little luck you may have found yourself with a girl that you think is extraordinary. So don’t screw it up by saying something dumb like, “I never woulda thought a girl like you would go for a guy like me.”
There is no good way this line could be taken.
Sure you probably meant it as a compliment. This Read on »
Interested in being the best boyfriend she could ever imagine? The people who mean the most to us are often the ones that can make us feel like even the most ordinary times are out of this world (or at least better than they would be without them). Sure you’ve followed our advice, taken her out and done things to show how awesome you think she is, now let’s use that creative/romantic energy on the less-than-special occasions.
You both have work to get done. Whether it’s planting yourself at the kitchen table until the reading gets done or staying up late to finish that essay your assigned school work is probably something none of us are too thrilled about. This makes for a perfect opportunity to be her knight in shinning armor and make a sleep-inducing task exciting.
Bring out the snacks. Invent playful games to help with memorization. Pump each other up through a slump with some tunes or a spontaneous dance. Reward a dedicated session of focused attention with a heated make out. As long as you don’t distract each other too much, everyone wins.
Very few high school students enjoy their part-time job. Eliminate the boring drudgery for her and surprise her at work with something that brightens up her day. Maybe it’s something sweet for her lunch break. Perhaps it’s a short note just to make her smile. Even if it’s just popping in to say, “hi,” and to tell her you can’t wait to see her later. This could be the little thing that gets her through the day.
Be careful not to stick around. This won’t be a smooth move if you get her in trouble with her boss for slacking off on the job and talking to you. You also don’t want to be the clingy boyfriend who is always around.
If she’s got little siblings there are likely to be times when she’s stuck inside tending to them while the rest of her family is out. Even if she enjoys spending time with the little one(s) it can be a drag to be stuck inside when other friends are out having a good time. Cheer her up by popping in. Bring a movie she’ll enjoy (but that’s also kid friendly). Deliver some snack foods or a pizza to enjoy together. The trick is to include the kids in whatever you do. Just dropping by to hook up after the kids have gone to sleep doesn’t count. Be that guy and you’ll quickly get your but kicked when her parents get home.
This is an underrated day that tends to drag along for many of us. You’ve had fun with your friends Friday and Saturday and use most of this afternoon to catch up on homework. Bu with some planning you can actually use this boring part of the week to plan a date that ends the week with a bang. So save Sunday for something special so she goes to school the rest of the week with a smile.
This is a classic clip from one my favorite completely outlandish movies, Half Baked. Although definitely far from high school, in this clip Dave Chappelle’s character here suffers from a setback that many young guys do – short on cash.
Watch the clip for a laugh then read some of our advice pieces here, here, here, here and here on super cheap date ideas to see some of our solutions for dating on an ultra low (or even non-existent) budget.
Sometimes guys and girls think differently about what counts as a date. A common complaint any guy who finds himself romantically involved will hear from his girl is, “We never go out any more.” You were great at wooing her, but keeping her happy requires some effort on your part to show her she’s special. This means keeping up the creativity in your dating routine. Take a look at these non-dates and think about your own balance of casual together-time and engaging romantic activities. Read on »
There is something bitter-sweet about fall. Sure you long for the lazy days of summer and all the freedom and adventure it allowed you. But a good thing about being back in school is the opportunity for your social life (and in many cases your dating life) to pick up again. While many of our suggested summer dates may not be as awesome as the air grows crisper, there are plenty of outings to keep you and a date occupied this autumn. Read on »
First dates can be a big deal. This is why HUSH has taken the time and given you so much advice on this subject. But no matter how prepared you are, every now and then you might wind up on a bad one. So if you find yourself in a situation where things didn’t go quite as you planned, don’t let it devastate you. But while we’re on the topic, don’t let it happen again either.
HUSH can’t sugar coat this too much. First impressions do matter. Most of us make pretty serious decisions on how we feel about someone in the first six seconds of meeting them. Thus, the first date can often play a big role into how the rest of this relationship will work out (or how it won’t). But you’ve still got some say in what direction things will take.
Is she still someone you’re interested in? Than don’t let that get you down. You can still do this. If things went terribly, don’t be afraid to acknowledge it. Laugh it off. This will show that you don’t let the negative hold you down and that you’re positive enough to deal with life’s imperfections. “Hey so I know me spilling that soda on you made for a pretty awkward time, but I still really like hanging out with you and want to make up for it. Let me take you to _____ sometime next week.” You’ll never know if things really weren’t meant to be if you don’t at least give it a try one more time.
If there just wasn’t a spark maybe this isn’t all you built it up to be. That’s okay. This is what dating is for. Your hormones are shooting through the roof right now. Spending some time with girls one-on-one is the only way to figure out what type of females you’re actually compatible with. A bad date every now and then is just a signal that this person wasn’t for you.
With that being said, if there is something you can do about this bad date, don’t let it happen again. Dating doesn’t need to be taken so seriously, but you should always learn from your mistakes. There are lots of things you can do to make spending time with her special and of course, there are always little tricks (like paying special attention to the beginning and ending of your outings or perking up on caffeine) that can help. Keep reading HUSH to hone your game and make bad dates something you only encounter on rare occasions.
