Everybody feels a little bit insecure. Sometimes lots of us feel like we don’t know how to act in certain social settings. Every now and then talking to a stranger or a pretty girl can be intimidating. Don’t let any of these things stand in your way. If you’re feeling shy it’s time to get over it.
If you want to feel confident talking to girls, it’s time to get comfortable in your own skin. Speaking to other people is a part of the game. The more you practice the better you’ll feel in the future.
We’ll start small with a homework assignment. You have one week to do the following five things. They are simple. There is very little risk. In many cases you don’t even have to come up with anything very original on your own. But once you do them you’ll learn what your strengths are when talking to people and feel less pressure the next time you’re talking to someone you’re attracted to. Read on »
So, I met this person and we flirt and talk all the time. Except we are two very awkward people. When I asked her out she initially said yes, but when I asked her what she wanted to do, she said “I really like you, but I think it would be just too awkward”. She is scared about the awkwardness. What should I do?
At this point midsummer the days couldn’t feel longer, the girls’ shorts couldn’t seem shorter, and you’re as far away from a classroom as you’ll be at any point in the year. If you’re looking to heart up your love life in addition to the temperature outdoors take a tour through last summer’s dating ideas and check back soon for new tips to stay cool with the ladies.
Welcome to the next edition of “Things Jerks Do” on Hooking Up & Staying Hooked, your catch-all collection of actions that make any guy officially a D-Bag. Read them all and remove them from your repertoire.
Treat special days for her like they aren’t important.
Birthdays, anniversaries, accomplishments, even holidays like Christmas or Valentine’s Day – these things matter to a lot of girls. Jerks won’t remember, forgo finding her a gift, and will even fail to recognize that these sort of things my matter for the girl they’re dating. You should look for ways to compliment your girlfriend regularly and make her feel special frequently – but on these occasions you’ve really got to recognize that this might mean something to her.
Flirt with her friends.
This will make you seem sleezy. This could create a rift between her and her friends. This could hurt her self-esteem or make her feel like she isn’t enough for you. This might make her feel jealous or angry. This could make her doubt how interested you really are in this relationship. Nothing good will come from it.
Pressure their girlfriends into sex.
It’s a great idea to talk about what you’re interested in when it comes to getting physical and you should be honest. But you can’t be a bully about it. A jerk is someone who doesn’t take “no” for an answer or keeps pushing the issue and pesters or intimidates a girl into going farther sexually than she wanted to. You should want the women you have sex to want it to – that’s a pretty basic aspect of being a decent human being. Ease up. Be patient. She’ll want you eventually or someone else will. Trying to score isn’t worth being an a-hole about it.
Figuring out whether or not a girl is attracted to you sometimes feels like the most frustrating puzzle encountered by man. You may have already mastered flirting with her, asking her out, and picking her up to go out, but sometimes the entire time we’re with a girl we’re lost as to whether or not she wants us back.
While it isn’t the ultimate yes or no test, a quick way to help you measure how much she might like you back is to engage in just a little bit of casual contact. We’ve given you hints about initiating this on your own before. But letting it happen and paying attention to how long it happens might also help you figure out if she’s interested. Read on »
One thing you never want to seem is desperate. Nothing will make us think a person is desperate faster than getting double texted. If one of your messages goes unanswered don’t send another. Two (or even worse more than two) texts in a row from someone
Text messages conversations are a two way street. One person goes. Then the other. Then the first person goes again. Then the second. It’s kind of silly how much we’re expected to play by the rules like this, but nonetheless so many of us find it totally weird when someone goes outside of this context. So when someone goes off script and sends two texts in a row (or more!) it makes that person look really weird.
There are exceptions to the rule that include: Read on »
Hooking Up & Staying Hooked is back with our next edition of “Things Jerks Do” – a simple list of behaviors to avoid if you don’t want her to think you’re an a-hole. Maybe you’ve been guilty of some of these before or maybe these are things you never knew not to do. Either way, now there is no excuse. Read on »
What will help you most with girls in the rest of your life (as will help you with any and all human beings out there) is respect. This isn’t about returning to gentlemanly times when you place your coat over a puddle so she doesn’t dirty her shoes or pulling out her chair for her as you sit down at a table. It’s just about treating the girls you interact with with dignity. This is why as a reader of HUSH you will never holler at a girl.
Obsessing over one girl won’t help you much in the romance department. Sure, we all have crushes but once you let that consume you it’s hard to function as human being. Odds are the girl you like is attracted to human beings so let’s help you stop obsessing and start finding success.
Recognizing you’re a normal dude that can hold a conversation with girls will help you develop the confidence to talk to your crush without becoming a bumbling mess of nervousness.
Remember she’s just a girl in high school as well.
Girls can be just as clueless and insecure and human as guys. No matter how hard you’re crushing you have to recognize she is not some sort of unblemished demigod. Everyone in high school feels awkward. When you can recognize she’s going through the same things as everyone else and start thinking of her as another person (one with a set characteristics that you find more preferable than those of other girls) you can calm down, conquer your feelings of hopeless longing, and go after your crush.
Before you get too weird worshiping her ask her to hang out.
Admiring from afar is only fun for so long. Talking to her frequently without trying to make things romantic is a one-way ticket to The Friend Zone. The best solution is to ask her out. Even if she turns you down the closure helps you get on with the rest of your life. The only way you’ll find out if there’s a chance for something between the two of you is to put yourself out there and say what you mean.
When you like someone it’s hard not to stress over when and what to text her. There is pressure not to reveal how much you’re into her – you’re worried you’ll seem desperate. You’re not sure if she’ll get your jokes when they’re just in writing – you might seem weird. Or what if you text her too much too frequently – you could scare her off.
Before you start freaking out, here’s an easy rule to remember when it comes to texting: Read on »
Physical contact is a key contributing factor to attraction. But if you’re just going around grabbing at the girls that you like you’re more likely to come off creepy than cool. So how do you go about creating that prolonged touch that might set her heart aflutter without pawing at her like a perv? Try Read on »
This little indie youtube film from Ming H. has some truth to it that may tough to swallow. With some girls, no matter what your hopes and dreams might be, you’re probably never leaving The Friend Zone. But instead of moping about it like most guys do, Ming takes us to that brilliant realization that does get us the girl of our dreams:
As long as I keep saying, “Hi, my name is _______.”
Check out the video. Think about the patterns and recognize them in your own life. And no matter what don’t let rejection hold you back. Read on »
