Apparently not enough guys out there have the message. A girl’s body is not a plaything. They are not objects to be tossed around between friends at a party, nor silly things to be manipulated and photographed for laughs later on.
Too many women have been hurt when young men around them forgot this. Their lives have been damaged beyond imagination. Two high school guys in Stubenville, Ohio are in jail because of this. Three more from Northern California have been arrested in a different incident, and four others in yet another soon will be in Nova Scotia for being similarly thick-headed and not understanding this message. A girl’s body is not a plaything.
The big question is: What’s the difference between these guys and you? The answer: It’s up to you.
Getting dumped sucks. In some cases, even being the one who breaks up with the other person sucks. Relationships can be enjoyable and when they end it sucks. But in most cases, a relationship that ended was meant to be finished. If it’s over, it’s over. And you have got to make sure you are okay with that.
One thing that lures us back to a broken relationship is remembering Read on »
So, I met this person and we flirt and talk all the time. Except we are two very awkward people. When I asked her out she initially said yes, but when I asked her what she wanted to do, she said “I really like you, but I think it would be just too awkward”. She is scared about the awkwardness. What should I do?
High schools thrive on two things: 1) the fact that you have to be there; 2) drama.
Yes, it is nice to be able to talk through your thoughts and feelings about a girl or girls. Sure there should be someone you can trust with a secret in high school. But no matter what, you’ve got to be careful with what comes out of your mouth if it’s about a girl.
Anything a guy says about a girl that he would not want her to know he said will eventually get back to said girl and she will know that he said it.
She’s gonna know you said it. And you’re gonna regreat it.
Here are stupid things I have witnessed go from one dude’s mouth to a girl’s ear Read on »
When you use your Facebook status to complain about your love life you aren’t helping anything. Yeah, Facebook can be a place to share your thoughts and feelings in addition to news about your life or hilarious videos of your friends doing stupid things, but this is also one of the major tools to manage your self-image. You’ve got to be more thoughtful than putting just anything in your head out there for everyone else to see.
You know you’ve seen it before. People posting frustrated and depressed statuses like Read on »
Unfortunately, I’ve fallen in love with one of my best friends. I really want to go out (but hook up to spark the relationship) with her, but I don’t know how to start. Ever since she broke up with her boyfriend, she’s been texting me more and always seems to want to hang out with me. I can get her alone pretty easily, but I don’t know whether to risk trying to hook up with her, because if she doesn’t feel the same, that’d make it real awkward between us.
She keeps throwing me mixed signals, like asking me to take her out, then when I take her out, telling me she want to hook me up with one of her friends.
So first, do I try to hook up with her? And second, how should I start when I get her alone. Thanks.
H.U.S.H. Response:
Lots of dudes wind up with a crush on one of their female friends. It feels uniquely unfortunate but actually it’s a universally awkward experience.
Do you have female friends? Maybe. Would it bother you if your girlfriend hated every female friend you had? Probably. Then should it be okay for you to have beef with every boy your girlfriend hangs out with? No.
Jealousy can get pretty gross. It makes sense to feel a little riled up when you see a guy hitting on your girlfriend or watching her swoon over another boy. But if you’re the type to get overly-protective in less serious situations you’ll definitely turn girls off and turn into a dude that most people don’t like.
The guys that get angry every time their girlfriend is alone with another guy, has problems with every friend she has with a penis, and is constantly checking in with her to assure other dudes aren’t around is the kind of guy that winds up being abusive. Being this overbearing doesn’t make her feel any more special. It won’t make anyone important in her life feel good about you. It won’t help your relationship last in the long run. So chill out.
Despite the seemingly endless debate on the subject – lots of guys and girls can actually be friends. You know males with female friends (you might even be one) and vice versa. So stop freaking out. You will be appreciated much more if you:
Show her you trust her. Don’t make a big deal about it when she hangs out with other dudes.
Calmly tell her about times when you have felt jealous so she knows you notice the way she interacts with other guys but doesn’t feel like you’re making demands about how she is supposed to act.
Try to get along with her male friends. (Only to an extent – if they are D-Bags don’t be fake and try to roll with guys you just don’t like.)
There are few females that have zero male friends. If this is always going to bother you, stop dating now. The quicker you deal with the fact the fact that your girlfriend has friends of the opposite sex the faster you’ll become a better boyfriend.
If you are involved with a girl and the two of you are ever in a situation where you have to introduce her, you willrun into problems if you haven’t thought about how you will introduce her.
Figuring out when (or even if) to introduce her to other people as your “girlfriend” can be tricky. It might involve a few conversations you’re scared to have but talking this out with a girl you’ve been seeing will help you avoid awkward moments that are sure to hurt whatever it is the two of you have together.
If you never make an effort to figure this out one of these three things will happen to you Read on »
“Oh. Don’t give me a hickey. That would be so high school.” Truer words were never whispered in my ear!
Hickeys (especially on the neck) are like a merit badge of high school that everyone seeks to wear at one point or another. Giving and getting them is often one of those stepping-stones of discovering your sexual interests.
You can get all sciency about the cause of hickeys or the cure, but we want to pull apart what makes them awesome and what makes them awful. Let’s think about the consequences (good and bad) and you can figure out for yourself whether you will suck neck with slightly less pressure in the future.
Your ex-girlfriend is going to hook up with other guys and you need to get over it already.
Breakups are never that easy. Even when it’s mutual, everyone agrees it’s “for the best,” and the two of you become friends afterwards – all breakups involve some element of heartache, distress, and discomfort.
One thing that some guys struggle with is who will be with their ex next. Your former-girlfriend is someone who you have spent a lot of time thinking of as being “yours” and perhaps some period of time thinking that she would never be anyone else’s. So yes it can be a little freaky to face the facts that none of this is true anymore but there is nothing you can do about it.
The healthy next step after a relationship ends is Read on »
She’s small and thin while I’m on the bigger side. How should I go about talking to her while I’m also shy?
H.U.S.H. Response:
I know this sounds like a cliché, but size doesn’t matter. Sure the way our culture is set up it seems like having a body like the guys that we see in the media would help us draw girls, but in reality it’s not often a make-or-break factor if there are other things someone has going for them. I have seen small girls go for big guys. I’ve seen big girls take on scrawny boys. I have known jacked guys that couldn’t get a date throughout high school. I have known heavyset kids that jumped from girlfriend to girlfriend.
When we realized the condom broke it was like seeing a whole new life I wasn’t ready for suddenly flash before my eyes. There I was covered in diaper cream, wet wipes, and baby poop, my head cocked to one side explaining into the phone, “Sorry, dude—I can’t go. It’s my turn to watch the little one.” Read on »
Basically this girl chased me for about a year but i didnt have any feelings for her more than a friend , we went out on 2 dates and she liked me more but i still wasnt sure , and at partys she would always come over to me and id try to shake her off. Well eventually we got into a relationship that lasted 2 months and she suddenly went all blunt and wouldnt reply to texts etc and all this made me want her and when she broke up she said she just looks at me as a bestfriend but i said “i dont think we can be friends” and i never heard from her again then i text her 3 weeks later and she was blunt then posted on twitter “dont try talk to me now after all this time , its over done and finished” im so confused how can she go from being clingy to not wanting me?
H.U.S.H. Response:
If there is anything I learned in high school, perhaps even one of the major motivations for making a guide for guys like Hooking Up and Staying Hooked, it is how unpredictable teenage girls can be. Sure guys can be complicated and irrational and send mixed signals too, but sometimes guys just feel completely lost when it comes to the unpredictability of girls. This situation is one that just about every guy has been through and that probably no one has figured out on the first try.
Before this situation makes you wind up like Ryan Gosling in the above clip from The Notebook, take a minute to think about some of the following things. Read on »
How do you add on everything that a romantic relationship means to the overloaded life of the average high school student without letting everything else fall apart? A few of the following tips might help. Read on »
So this past week I have been talking to this awesome girl who is fun to hang around and is really cute. We have pretty much talking non stop this whole week and so I decided to take her out to dinner Wednesday night. She said she didn’t have much time to hang out that night but said she would love to go to dinner so it was kind of a date. Anyways, when the date came around and I thought it was fine. Kissed her good night and we both went our way. The next day rolled around she barely talked to me. Read on »
