Getting dumped sucks. In some cases, even being the one who breaks up with the other person sucks. Relationships can be enjoyable and when they end it sucks. But in most cases, a relationship that ended was meant to be finished. If it’s over, it’s over. And you have got to make sure you are okay with that.
One thing that lures us back to a broken relationship is remembering Read on »
Everybody feels a little bit insecure. Sometimes lots of us feel like we don’t know how to act in certain social settings. Every now and then talking to a stranger or a pretty girl can be intimidating. Don’t let any of these things stand in your way. If you’re feeling shy it’s time to get over it.
If you want to feel confident talking to girls, it’s time to get comfortable in your own skin. Speaking to other people is a part of the game. The more you practice the better you’ll feel in the future.
We’ll start small with a homework assignment. You have one week to do the following five things. They are simple. There is very little risk. In many cases you don’t even have to come up with anything very original on your own. But once you do them you’ll learn what your strengths are when talking to people and feel less pressure the next time you’re talking to someone you’re attracted to. Read on »
HUSH is here to help you be a better guy. To do this, you’ve got to rid yourself of all the bad boy behaviors we often feel pressured to do. Take note of our ongoing series, Things Jerks Do, and avoid these actions. You’re not going to be perfect. But you certainly won’t be a jerk. Here it is, Volume 5: Read on »
So I used to be very friendly with this girl in the grade below me for a while, but after some necessary class changes I began seeing her less in school so we never really committing to being anything more than casual acquaintances. However, I’ve always been interested so last night I pulled the trigger and we hooked up at a party, nothing special just second base. I wouldn’t mind pursuing this further to see where things go whether that means a relationship or just more action, so how should I go about doing this? 24-hour rule? Longer? Call or text? Being older than her carries a lot of weight at my school, so I think I have an advantage there. Thanks for the well-appreciated help!
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We want girls to think we’re hot. We want them to say “yes” to our date invitations. We want them to tell their friends about how cool we are. The guys with all the sweet gear and good looks make it seem so easy. But you don’t need all of that for success with the ladies. We’ll help you do without all the fancy extras in our ongoing series, You Don’t Need.
Nice Car? Nope. Not what you need to get girls.
Yes. It is fun to cruise around in a shiny ride. But the wheels don’t do the wooing. It’s the who drives that does. Girls won’t make out with an exhaust pipe. They won’t talk to a carburetor on Skype. Just because you don’t have a cool car doesn’t mean you can’t rev her engine. Read on »
Some people make resolutions at the start of a new year – a promise to themselves to do something new, do something better, or to be happier with themselves. Here at HUSH we believe that if you’re going to improve yourself or your situation any day is a good day to start. But if you have a sex or relationships related resolution for 2013 we are here to help you out.
Figuring out female anatomy? We’ll give you some guidance.
Getting a girlfriend? Look out for our advice.
Plan to be the Best Boyfriend Ever? We’ll support you.
Want more confidence? We’ve got your back.
2013 is your year. So stay tuned through facebook. Tell a friend about the website. Feel free to ask a question of your own. And most importantly, keep reading. Hooking Up & Staying Hooked is here to help. Read on »
So, I met this person and we flirt and talk all the time. Except we are two very awkward people. When I asked her out she initially said yes, but when I asked her what she wanted to do, she said “I really like you, but I think it would be just too awkward”. She is scared about the awkwardness. What should I do?
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High schools thrive on two things: 1) the fact that you have to be there; 2) drama.
Yes, it is nice to be able to talk through your thoughts and feelings about a girl or girls. Sure there should be someone you can trust with a secret in high school. But no matter what, you’ve got to be careful with what comes out of your mouth if it’s about a girl.
Anything a guy says about a girl that he would not want her to know he said will eventually get back to said girl and she will know that he said it.
She’s gonna know you said it. And you’re gonna regreat it.
Here are stupid things I have witnessed go from one dude’s mouth to a girl’s ear Read on »
What does that guy have that I don’t? It may not be what you think!
It’s easy to look at a guy who gets a lot of attention from girls and point out clichéd possessions of his that you might think draws in all the ladies. But assumptions are usually untrue and this mindset doesn’t help anyone become more successful with the opposite sex. HUSH is going to give you a tour of things you don’t actually need to get lucky. Let’s start with this: Read on »
We’re approaching that time all of us dread: the end of summer. While shortened video game sessions at the pressures of homework and exchanges of precious sleep for early morning rides to class lay ahead, so too do new opportunities for high school romance. You’ve made resolutions in years past at the start of the school year and whether they went well or fell short, HUSH is here to help you find success this time around. Follow these steps and increase your odds this semester for finding love or just getting lucky. Read on »
When you use your Facebook status to complain about your love life you aren’t helping anything. Yeah, Facebook can be a place to share your thoughts and feelings in addition to news about your life or hilarious videos of your friends doing stupid things, but this is also one of the major tools to manage your self-image. You’ve got to be more thoughtful than putting just anything in your head out there for everyone else to see.
You know you’ve seen it before. People posting frustrated and depressed statuses like Read on »
Relationships are meant to be an awesome mix of fun and fuzzy feelings – but if you’re doing it right it also means being there for her.
Sure, being somebody’s boyfriend involves making each other laugh, trying new things together, making one another feel special, making out, meeting the parents, and silly traditions like prom or Valentine’s Day. But sometimes most importantly it means emotional support. So how can you be there for her when she’s overwhelmed with feelings? Try these three things:
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The latest installment of “Things Jerks Do” is in. Find here another mini-collection of male behavior that will make any dude less of a man and a lot more of a jerk. Understand them then avoid them in your relationships.
Count lame hang outs as dates.
If you’re in a relationship with a girl, sure not every moment is going to magical. This doesn’t mean, however, that you can count half-assed hang outs as romance. She needs to be shown a good time, be given some undivided attention, and taken to something new every so often. Get some clarity on what doesn’t count as a date and make sure there is a balance between the mundane and the passionate.
Insist on FWB when she obviously wants more.
Friends With Benefits can work if both partners are getting what they need. But if it’s clear that one person is more emotionally invested in this relationship than the other, things should either progress or be cut off. Insisting on getting the physical fulfillment you want but holding back on the commitment end is just taking advantage of her feelings in a sleazy way.
Never compliment their girlfriend.
She knows you’re attracted to her (mind, body, and spirit) but it helps to be reminded. Frequently. You don’t need to shower her in praise but never telling her something you appreciate about her or what makes her special is an easy way to take her for granted. Let her know she means something to you or you’re letting her down. Read on »
Do you have female friends? Maybe. Would it bother you if your girlfriend hated every female friend you had? Probably. Then should it be okay for you to have beef with every boy your girlfriend hangs out with? No.
Jealousy can get pretty gross. It makes sense to feel a little riled up when you see a guy hitting on your girlfriend or watching her swoon over another boy. But if you’re the type to get overly-protective in less serious situations you’ll definitely turn girls off and turn into a dude that most people don’t like.
The guys that get angry every time their girlfriend is alone with another guy, has problems with every friend she has with a penis, and is constantly checking in with her to assure other dudes aren’t around is the kind of guy that winds up being abusive. Being this overbearing doesn’t make her feel any more special. It won’t make anyone important in her life feel good about you. It won’t help your relationship last in the long run. So chill out.
Despite the seemingly endless debate on the subject – lots of guys and girls can actually be friends. You know males with female friends (you might even be one) and vice versa. So stop freaking out. You will be appreciated much more if you:
- Show her you trust her. Don’t make a big deal about it when she hangs out with other dudes.
- Calmly tell her about times when you have felt jealous so she knows you notice the way she interacts with other guys but doesn’t feel like you’re making demands about how she is supposed to act.
- Try to get along with her male friends. (Only to an extent – if they are D-Bags don’t be fake and try to roll with guys you just don’t like.)
There are few females that have zero male friends. If this is always going to bother you, stop dating now. The quicker you deal with the fact the fact that your girlfriend has friends of the opposite sex the faster you’ll become a better boyfriend.
So go on, Get Over It!